Life Update - Post Partum

After 10 months of nursing, and postpartum I learned quite a few things about my body. Being comfortable in my own skin has been a tiny bit of a roller coaster postpartum. Right now I weigh more than I have for my entire life. I justify it by knowing part of it is because I haven't truly slept a full 8 hours a night since she was born (but really does any mom??? especially one who is actively nursing). I say being comfortable with a grain of salt. I've always been moderately to very comfortable with my body. I've loved every inch, and every curve that I was blessed with, although I will admit I am my own worse detractor (aren't we all..). 

Mentally, giving birth and then getting back to your "normal" life is a challenge. You want to dress just as you had before but your body isn't back to "normal" yet. Your body is screaming at you that you need another two hours of sleep. Okay lets face it just 15 more minutes of shuteye...even standing up would suffice. Physically your body goes through the gauntlet and you're expected to just bounce back as your fore-mother's have done. 

With that said let's talk about what I've quickly learned and felt :

  • Things definitely change after a baby
  • Parts of me will never be the same again
  • My child is a voracious eater
  • Sometimes I feel like I'm literally a cow
  • I miss wearing pretty all lace bras that don't have a nursing clip attached
  • I have to disappear for unknown periods of time in order to pump out precious gold
  • She's 10 months and gorgeous... and all of a sudden can't get enough of her breast milk
  • My nipples are raw and they chafe every other day
  • Did I mention I feel like a cow?

Also, stretch marks! My stretch marks are my battle scars, they're my memory of carrying a small miracle for 9 months. I know some would want to get rid of them, but even though I came up with a regime to help them fade, eventually I just grew to love them, along with the marks along my hips that have always been there.  Let's be honest, I wouldn't change any of this for anyone or anything in the whole world. 

Mom's out there can you commiserate? Tell us your stories, your challenges, how you cope with the changes.


Nursing Bras for the Fuller Figure #4

Time for some sexy! Next up is You! Lingerie. Its founder, Uyo Okebie-Eichelberger (shoutout to another black woman owned biz!) found herself searching for not only affordable but beautiful nursing lingerie.  With tons of research & experience under her belt, You! Lingerie was born (pun intended). All You! Lingerie products feature the brands signature hot pink color - the cotton lining, the nursing clips and the decorative bows, which makes it stand out from other brands!

Initial Try On at 9 months. (super sexy)

  • hen I first put this on while pregnant I needed help getting it on,  at the time my husband had found and moved the extenders that come with the bra which allowed me to breathe once I put it on for actual use.
  • This is one of my prettier bras, super sexy for a nursing bra and fashionable with the fashion placed straps and slightly low cut.

  • Inside cups are hot pink and cotton, soft to the touch and I feel like I could wear it without my nursing pads if I would ever dare try (leaking in public is a real fear ladies).

  • It does have stays and underwire, but the cups were deep enough.

  • I called this bra my date bra, I wore it on my first date out with my husband, it made me feel great, added an extra confidence boost, I'd just given birth to our daughter and “Elise” gave me just that.

  • My only gripe with the fit is the firmness of the bra, without the extenders it was really firm but with a changing body this makes sense over time and use as the bra stretches.

  • For actual usage it was a little stiff pulling down the front cup for nursing, for pumping this was great but during nursing not so much, this was more on my part and has a learning curve with how to position the baby.

  • Overall for a full cup contour nursing bra, I applaud how pretty, fashionable and sexy it is…. As a nursing bra.

Completely filling it out (week 4-5 of nursing)

Winding down this series with a few more brands! Let us know what brands you love if they weren't covered yet! 


Nursing Bras for the Fuller Figure #3

Next up: Elila! Now let me tell you, Elila is one of those brands that I applaud and recommend for the plus size woman. They were created in 2004 and design each piece for the full figure with great materials while still maintaining focus on detail + comfort. One word I think of when it comes to at least the nursing bra I tried: sturdy.

Initial try on at 9 months.

  • Shocker: I look like I  have no boobs in this.

  • I actually really like this bra. Its cotton is comfortable.

  • I felt solid when I was nursing...meaning the sling pushed everything forward so that I could actually nurse. It pushed all the breast tissue into the right spot.

  • Super sturdy I don't feel like it's going to stretch fast and die quickly.

  • Its definitely a strong cotton that hasn't had much give like other bras (bear in mind this is a week 5 update)

  • The only worry I have is that it uses traditional hooks in place for the typical plastic snaps and I feel that over time this will become a weaker point.

Middle of the night feeding time! Engorged boobs...

More to come with several more brands!